Table Topics Questions

If you are looking for some table topic questions to use with your club, consider these:

  1. Using an object you brought with you, talk to us about the importance of relationships.
  2. Give us three things that make a poor use of power point.
  3. Compare what a presentation could be with and without visual aids.
  4. Using the white board, talk to us about space-time theory.
  5. Using the white board, describe an accident that you were a part of.
  6. How powerful is a photograph?
  7. (Hand them an umbrella)
  8. (Hand them a microphone)
  9. Describe an April Fool’s memory.
  10. Describe an amazing April’s fools joke.
  11. Lie through your teeth.
  12. “Crowd freeze” is a popular YouTube event – describe your own crowd prank.
  13. Pull an object out of a bag: What is the sentimentality of this object?
  14. Pull an object out of a bag: How will you use this object for world domination?
  15. Pull an object out of a bag: What is the object and how can it be used for something different?
  16. What is a rule you would get rid of in your life?
  17. What is something you are afraid of?
  18. What is more valuable, intellect or common sense?
  19. Tell us about one of your favorite traditions.

Wordsmithing: Go For It

posted on booksbywomen.org by Stacy Dymalski

Words.

Individually they’re just symbols on a page. Meaningless, really.

But when you string them together into a sentence that conjures up feelings and images, THEN you have something.

That’s what I call creative wordsmithing.

We’re all capable of it if you put forth a little effort. True, some are better at it than others, but I guarantee you your writing will improve the more you give creative wordsmithing a fair shot.

Take the word “ever.”

Alone it’s somewhat elusive. Is it an adverb? An adjective? Honestly, I can never remember.

But when you add it to your writing for emphasis, and at the same time switch out dull words for colorful verbiage, your writing moves up a notch.

For example, if you write, “That’s a pretty sunrise,” that adds nothing to the moment, because let’s face it, most sunrises are beautiful.

But if you say, “Have you ever seen such a striking sunrise?” Now you’ve made it a personal challenge for your reader.

Maybe they think about standing at the top of Mt. Haleakala in Maui, ten thousand feet up in the middle of the Pacific Ocean, witnessing the first rays of a new dawn. The sunrise strikes its audience with all the power of Mother Nature. Its brilliance comes at everyone with the speed of light! … Somehow “That’s a pretty sunrise,” just doesn’t cut it. I’m sure you could do better.

Stacy Dymalski has authored four books

In another example, let’s say you want to write about your family and you jot down, “I want my kids to be happy.” Admirable, but really, who doesn’t want that?

But if you write, “I hope my kids live happily ever after.”  That is so much more romantic, and yes it’s a little cliché, but in kind of a retro, Disney sort of way that anyone who grew up in the latter half of the twentieth century could appreciate. It definitely animates one’s imagination in ways that “I want my kids to be happy” just doesn’t do.

And, by the way, if you happen to be recounting a conversation with your kids that’s the perfect time to go a little insane with your prose.

Instead of writing something like, “Your room is dirty again. Clean it!” Throw in irony and exaggeration to wordsmith the sentence into, “Are you ever going to clean your room in my lifetime?” That adds an element of anxiety that we can all relate to either as parents, or as kids from when our parents nagged us.

Suddenly that sentence goes from an observation to an experience, making your audience feel instead of just hear what you have to say.

Good Writing Trumps All

I tell my kids if you can write and speak well, you have the potential to do whatever you want in life. With these two skills you can persuade, teach, entertain, campaign, invent, lead, inspire, and even change the world. Because creative wordsmithing makes people pay attention to your message.

From Hitler or Ghandi, a personal point of view is what we humans crave. We want to experience the noticeable effects of your fingerprints all over your writing, so much so that NO ONE else in the world could’ve conveyed what you have to say in exactly that way.

“I’m totally speechless. I don’t know what to say.”

But you may argue that creative wordsmithing is hard because when you sit down to write, that blank page intimidates you with the spitefulness of a schoolyard bully.

How dare you think you can write something that other people want to hear? You cringe and allow yourself to be browbeaten into a corner muttering that tired mantra “I’m totally speechless. I don’t know what to say.”

But THAT is the precisely the moment you have something to say that we want to hear.  At that moment your filter is gone, your guard is down, your emotion is raw, and your opinions are true.

So when you sit down to write let your mind go back to a situation, even if it’s painful, that rendered you speechless. Because when your brain goes mute, that’s when you can finally speak from the heart, crafting those beautiful sentences that can only come from you.

The Masters Got It Right

And if you still think creative wordsmithing is not worth the effort, let me leave you with this:

Out, out brief candle
Life is nothing but a poor player

That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more.
It’s a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury
Signifying nothing.

Contrast that with:

Life is short and then you die.

I promise you, Shakespeare would’ve won a lot of Toastmaster competitions…and maybe even a Pulitzer or two.

Stacy Dymalski is the author of four books, the most recent being the hilarious Confessions of a Band Geek Mom. She’s also a stand-up comic, an award-wining public speaker, and teaches self-publishing at the University of Utah. She lives in Park City, UT, with her husband and two (band geek) sons.

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Effective Mentoring

Compiled by Hae Buldoc during a club brainstorming session.

How to find a mentor (s)? How to find a perfect match?

·       Ask VP of Education to assign someone
·       Ask someone who attends meetings regularly
·       Find someone that you admire
·       After you identify the are you need mentoring , look around for the person that have such knowledge and expertise then make a request
·       Try out your assigned mentor
·       Hire a professional
·       Ask others for suggestions
·       Always pick a busy person
·       Have the courage to ask that person you admire
·       Like the way a person conducts themselves
·       Orderly fashion – 1st Area – choosing a mentor – a.  A like -minded individual who cares about me…1st and foremost
·       Bribe with chocolate
·       Find someone you click with
·       Observe meetings
·       Identify a speaking style that you like

How to become an effective mentor when you decided to take the mentoring role?

·       Make expectations clear
·       Monthly communication
·       Extra attention at meetings
·       Pick someone who has a style opposite of yours – different point of view
·       Share life experiences
·       Pick someone who can be assets to each other
·       Someone who won’t put up with your excuses
·       Make sure you are there for their speeches
·       Provide solid mix of positive feedback with things to improve
·       Listen and ask good questions
·       Meet one on one with your mentee to explain how Toastmasters works
·       Listening
·       Work with the mentee as they develop their speech
·       You don’t have to be a better speaker – you do have to be an encourager and someone to challenge them
·       Wait for the mentee’s demands or request
·       Listen

Hooks, likes, repetition, story, and strong language.

Here are a few tips that I picked up from a recent article in the Toastmaster Magazine.  Great ideas…

  • “Your title is an opportunity to create interest before you even stand to speak.  Take the time to develop a hook.”
  • Use metaphors = “It’s like…”  A metaphor can make the difference between stale information and a meaningful message.
  • “Repeat catchphrases often and your point will be remembered.”
  • “Rhyme is sublime and alliteration adds impact.”  When members have used alliteration it always catches people’s attention.
  • “The human mind becomes more engaged when points are delivered in story form…”
  • “Take the time and trouble to design language that captures the imagination and your audiences will thank you for it.”